Manners Monday seems like an appropriate name for this blog post! We get so many questions about wedding etiquette and "standard" protocol that we decided to weigh in on some of the unspoken rules of weddings and events. Starting with wedding gifts. We've never been sticklers for hard and fast rules, but everyone knows that good manners never go out of style. 

The "rules" of modern wedding etiquette and gift giving are constantly changing with the times. Let us help you put your best foot forward with the modern take on the DO's & DON'TS of gifting. 



Say yes to the group gift. 

Many couples say that this is their favorite type of gift to receive. It's thoughtful, and often helps lighten the financial load on a big ticket item the couple really wants.  

Find out where the couple is registered.

With so many registry options out there, couples are getting more and more adventurous with their registry picks. Find out where they are registered and stick to the gift registry when selecting something for the couple. 


PS - we love ZOLA for wedding registries. It truly is the registry that offers it all, including but not limited to...adventure experiences, kitchen appliances, bed & bath items, furniture, outdoor gear, and even allows guests to give cash if they so choose. ZOLA also carries many brands that our couples adore such as Calaphalon, Safavieh, Ralph Lauren, Kitchen Aid, and Backcountry. 

Write a thoughtful note. 

Most couples will hold on to their favorite wedding cards and look back on them for years to come. Take the time to craft a heartfelt message to the couples. Maybe include how you met them, advice for the future, funny memories, the possibilities are endless. Keep it authentic! 



Stress over budget.

The old "spend enough to cover the cost of your plate" is exactly that....old. If you were lucky enough to snag a spot on the guest list you are clearly near and dear to the couples heart. Spend what you feel is appropriate, the bride and groom will just be happy to have you present on their day. 

Wait to send or purchase a gift.

Purchase early to allow ample time for shipping and delivery. If for some reason you missed the window of opportunity to send a gift prior to the wedding, try to get a congratulatory gift to the new couple within two months of the big day. 


We hope these tips will help you navigate the art of gift giving during the upcoming engagement and wedding season. Cheers!